APPROVAL ADDICTION? πŸ€”

It’s TUESDAY CHAT WITH CELEBπŸ’ƒ

Good day guys. It’s really been a while. I believe y’all have been doing pretty well. Glory be to God. You may want to answer no but I want to put it to you that no matter what situation you may be in, you will still have reasons to thank God(if you think well).

Okay now, there’s something i’d like to discuss with you guys today and I hope we’re all going to be blessed as we share our thoughts and opinions about a discussion I title approval addiction.

Now let’s get into it…πŸ‘‡πŸ€—

Could it be that the reason most people(youths) are in relationships is for fear if being alone?

Does it mean that we wouldn’t be whole if we do not have the title, ‘boyfriend or girlfriend’ hung behind our names?

Do we actually need those we are in relationships with or we just want them to fill a void in our lives?

There are many more questions we could review but I would like us to discuss these together and think on a way forward.

THE DISCUSSION

I have realised that in this age that we are in, almost everyone is in a relationship(i mean sexual/romantic relationship); but then i sat to think about what the importance of these relationships are in our lives individually.

Do not get me wrong, relationships are good but they may not be right or good for us at a particular time.

Just as we’ve always known, there is time for everything, we should learn to know when things are good for us and where they are not.

First of all, we are all in the process of learning and sometimes, if we dont make mistakes, we may not be able to get things right. So, in other words, some of us have made mistakes which we have keqrnt from and they have made us

better people. Can I have a witness..πŸ€—πŸ™‹

Alot of us have been so engrossed with having people around and also allowed the western mentality sink so much into us that we’ve forgotten our own heritage and who we really are.

I think young people want to be in relationships because we lack independency, we think we will not be able to survive if we are not attached to someone-a boyfriend or girlfriend. But this is so wrong. God has created everyone of us in a way that we will always need Him; so it saddens the heart how people ignore God and put more importance on human beings

We don’t have to be in relationships! Yes. We dont have to have boyfriends or girlfriends. Singleness is not a curse, it is a great thing. It is a time for us young people to find out who we are, a time of discovery of self and life’s purpose.

When we are single, we have enough time to think about what we want to do and what we want to get out of our lives; it is a time to know God better and build a concrete relationship with him. Contrarily, when we add someone else (a boyfriend or a girlfriend), we add to the list of things we have to bother about and we begin to bear another person’s burden. Which is not actually how God wants things to be for us.

God wishes for us to prosper in our health, mind and spirit so he doesnt want us to involve anything that will mar the actualization of that in our lives.

This is already long enough .. so i guess we’ll continue in the next post(if you guys sant me us to). Kindly drop your comments and let l me know what You think.

God bless you fam. Thanks for your time 😍

Have a splendid week ahead

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GIVE THE LOVE THAT YOU NEED!

Owe no man any thing, but to love one another: for he that loveth another hath fulfilled the law. Romans 13:8

And we do that by;πŸ‘‡

Checking on others: some of us complain that people don’t check on us or do things for us: But how many people have we actually checked up on personally. Do you even ‘remember’ them talk more of checking on them? I believe so well that treating others as you wish that they would treat you can be over emphasised.

You don’t know how far your act of love of checking on someone can go. Joyce Meyer says, when she’s down, she looks for someone is down as well, to console and lift their spirit. This is because she knows that there will be someone out there whose situation in worse than hers and by doing so, she will also find relief and a solution to her own problem. I believe so much that this works and so we should all put it to work and I’m sure we would enjoy the benefit of loving others.

You may think that someone who you should be helping or checking up on is ‘strong’ because he or she is the one that gives advices to people when they are down. But no. Don’t get it wrong. Sometimes, the strong also need a shoulder to lean on.

No man is an island . You will always need someone in life no matter your strength and also, someone will always need you

Praying for them: you cannot pray for people you don’t remember or check up on. You have to start with inculcating the habit of praying for people. See what ended the story of Job..

And the LORD turned the captivity of Job, when he prayed for his friends: also the LORD gave Job twice as much as he had before. Job 42:10

Job’s life changed when he prayed for his friends. Now, I know you may be excited that it says when he prayed for his ‘friends’ but see what the book of Matthew (new testament) says…

But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;Matthew 5:44

Love your enemies, bless them that curse you πŸ˜† yeah, pray for your enemies. It is the bible (the word of God) that says it and not I. Jesus Christ was not even talking much about our loved ones, he was directing the matter straight to our enemies – people who hurt us. That’s deep. But as I always say, God will never tell us to do whatever He has not empowered us to do. And then, His commandments are always for our Good! May God help us.

Giving to them: which could be in form of money, time, advice (in love), and so on and so forth. And let me set the record straight, if you are not a giver, you are not a lover! Yes.

“For God so LOVED the world that he GAVE…” [John 3:16]

Yes, if you are truly a lover, you need to learn the act of giving. And do not just give: give willingly, don’t be cajoled, don’t let it be form of eye service. Remember, God loves a cheerful giver

Every man according as he purposeth in his heart, so let him give; not grudgingly, or of necessity: for God loveth a cheerful giver. 2 Corinthians 9:7

Respecting them: Don’t treat peoplelike trash and expect them to treat you better. Some people will still treat you right regardless but when some don’t, you wouldn’t have the right to get angry or fight them because you just reaped what you sow.

Give, and it shall be given unto you; good measure, pressed down, and shaken together, and running over, shall men give into your bosom. For with the same measure that ye mete withal it shall be measured to you again. Luke 6:38

You saw the bolded portion right? Yes. The same amount and attitude of respect you give to others is what will be given to you. And guess what, it’s gonna be topped up with greater measures.

I wouldn’t want you to think that you will always reap whatever good or bad you sow to peoole from the places or people into which or whom you sowed it. What the word of God says is that we will reap what we sow not necesarily where we sow it

There are so many other ways we can express love but I believe these few are ones will be very helpful.

At this juncture, I will implore us all to measure appropriately before we do things and I believe God will help our efforts and give us the grace to do the right things.

Thank you so much for your time famπŸ’“

#TGIF Do have a splendid weekend And do not forget to spread love😍

WHAT DO YOU KNOW ABOUT ANXIETY

Anxiety is an unpleasant state of mental uneasiness, nervousness, apprehension and obsession or concern about some uncertain events. Hmmm. See what the definition ended with, “uncertain events “.

Like I mentioned in the post above, most of us are usually anxious about things we don’t have the ability to do anything about- as well as things we are not even sure of.

None of us can by worrying can change anything. No matter how hard we try, being anxious will only kill us rather than changing the situation.

Alot if times in fact, we know the things we are bothered about but we don’t know how to find a solution to it. It may be money, relationship, family, academics, whatever it is, Jesus Christ can handle it!

All we just need do is to table everything before our maker (God) and He’ll see to it that every thing falls in good shape for us. Remember, He is not a man that He should lie. Whatever He says,He means it and it will surely come to pass!!

See what my bible says;

Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.

Philippians 4:6

Anxiety has cure. In fact, it has antidote. If you read further in that Philipians 4, in verse 7. It says

And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:7

What this verse is telling us is the reward or outcome of not being anxious. We are being encouraged in verse 6 that instead of being anxious, we should just pray to God and Thank Him for what we pray about, believing that He has done them already.

Once we do this, we will experince a kind of peace that we’ve never experienced before, the one that no man can give or explain.

P.S.

You can only have the kind of life you need with your relationship with Jesus Christ. Meet with him today and you’ll have nothing to worry about!! I promise you😊😊

Thanks for your time fam

Have an anxiety- free life 😍😍

GET UP!

Happy New month fam🌞

Happy Independence to our great nation, NIGERIA

Let’s get right into this..πŸ‘‡

You may have fallen several times with your back against the ground already. You may have failed that you no longer see any possiblily of success in yourself. I am here to tell you today that you should GET UP! The bible says that the righteous shall fall seven times and he shall rise up again. We shouldn’t get it wrong: We are not told that we should make falling or failing an habit but instead, if or when we fall, we should not remain there.

I believe something for sure that you are not totally wrong for falling, you are wrong for not rising again.

Think about it, let’s say you made a mistake and you slipped into a ditch; would you say you have fallen and so you would like to rest and remain there? NO. No mentally balanced human being would want to remain in a ditch because people would look down on you, spit on you, pour dirt on you and so on.

A reason why I think people don’t want to get up is because they are afraid. They lack courage to try again. They remembered the time they fell/failed and they thought that if they tried again, they would still fail. They have allowed past failures to destroy their self-esteem and courage to try again now.

Fam, no matter how many times you fall or have fallen, pick up your bag and baggages now and get up! Let the concept be that, i will rise up the number of times i fall!

There is need for us to fight against the spirit of fear that would not allow us try again. No one says you only have one chance. God is a God of second new chances! Even if it’s your sin that is hindering from taking the actions that God is laying in your heart; here is a good news for you. God has forgiven you and you should also forgive yourself and move on!

This new season in Nigeria, I advice that you GET UP! Think of some thing you can do for yourself that will also add value to the people around you and your nation at large. The truth is that it may not be encouraging in the beginning but as time goes on coupled with your courage and determination, you will get there and it will pay off!

Thanks for your time famπŸ’– Happy Independence Nigeria

Getup Nigeria!

MY BOYFRIEND BEATS ME

This is a painful thing in my heart and I can’t but let it out. It’s been going on for a long while now but i decided not to talk about. I was hoping things would change but the more I kept quiet, the worse it got. I am talking about the issue of boyfriends beating their girl friends. It is so unheard of!

I am not disputing the fact that ladies can be so annoying at times (or most times as you would say) but that does not warrant anyone to raise his hands to beat a lady. I believe the only time you have to beat a lady is when she’s your younger sister (in an African home) and in fact, there’s a limit to it. By the time she is grown up and you do it, you are looking to be disrespected soon.

First, I’ll like to say What you permit persists. I believe some ladies actually bring this upon themselves. If you are a victim of this, i want you to know that the man is not the last born of all men; so leaving him will not kill you, you’re only helping yourself that way.

You can’t claim you want to change him by still staying with it (I mean living with him). Well, i dont know how you’ll earn respect that way though. By the time you’re living with him already, doing his dishes and laundry, he’ll have no choice than to see you as someone he can order around and do anything to. He didn’t earn the authority over you, you gave it to him so he won’t value it.

I heard a true story about a girl who died as a result of her boyfriend beating her. He would beat her and people would come to her rescue but then, she would go back to him afterwards. Subsequently, when people heared noise from their apartment, they refused to interfere. This happened till the day she died in the process and her parents had to go carry her corps. A word is enough for the wise!

I’ll conclude by saying no one is perfect; we are all works in progress. So, i just want to implore ladies to stop making men ridicule us. We are precious jewels and we should regards ourselves as one so that we can be treated so.

Likewise guys, ladies will upset you but self-control, as i always say is very important for life’s endeavour. Human beings are one of the most complicated creatures (women being at the top rank) to relate with but with self control and patience, we can live at peace with every one. So guys, if you can’t beat up a fellow guy who upsets you, i don’t see the reason for you to beat up a lady.

Thanks for your time. Do have a safe and itchfree weekend 😍

Needs & Wants

What we want might not be what we really need. Needs are far different than wants and apparently, they are much more important. We may want AC in our homes but we definitely need Oxygen. We can’t survive without it. In other words, needs are necessities while wants are mere luxuries and we can do without them.

I am not inferring that your needs must necessarily be what depending our lives. What I am saying is that we must check and be sure if what we claim that we need is in line with God’s plans for us and a necessity for us at that time in our lives.

Here is an example of a case in the bible:

1 Samuel 16:6-12

6. And it came to pass, when they were come, that he looked on Eliab, and said, Surely the LORD’S anointed is before him.
7. But the LORD said unto Samuel, Look not on his countenance, or on the height of his stature; because I have refused him: for the LORD seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the LORD looketh on the heart.
8. Then Jesse called Abinadab, and made him pass before Samuel. And he said, Neither hath the LORD chosen this.
9. Then Jesse made Shammah to pass by. And he said, Neither hath the LORD chosen this.
10. Again, Jesse made seven of his sons to pass before Samuel. And Samuel said unto Jesse, The LORD hath not chosen these.
11. And Samuel said unto Jesse, Are here all thy children? And he said, There remaineth yet the youngest, and, behold, he keepeth the sheep. And Samuel said unto Jesse, Send and fetch him: for we will not sit down till he come hither.
12. And he sent, and brought him in. Now he was ruddy, and withal of a beautiful countenance, and goodly to look to. And the LORD said, Arise, anoint him: for this is he.

We can conclude that we need something when we can’t do without that thing. Therefore, we would really do well if we can seek what God’s will for us is and follow it. Doing this will save us the stress of running after things which are not ours and get what is ours at the right time.

Our wants are not to be denied but they shouldn’t take a higher priority than our needs!

Thanks for your time πŸ˜πŸ™

I DON’T HAVE THAT PATIENCE!!πŸ™„πŸ˜•

Or better still, i don’t have that time, that’s what alot of us say when we are in situations where we are supposed to exercise patience.

Some of us have patience in other aspects but we lack it in speaking. The bible says he who talks before listening is a fool πŸ™„i didn’t say that, Proverbs 18:13 did, it says He that answereth a matter before he heareth it, it is folly and shame unto him KJV]

Alot of times people annoy us and sometimes provoke us to say things, but we are counted as wise if we take it in and say nothing, not because we are foolish or dumb but because we seek peace. See Proverbs 17:28 Even a fool, when he holdeth his peace, is counted wise: and he that shutteth his lips is esteemed a man of understanding.

We may talk about the issue later but at that moment, to react based on the anger would not be a good idea. Self control is very important in handling things as i usually say; the bible also talks about this in Proverbs 25:28 He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls. And if we cant control ourselves, we automatically lose guard and that’s when the devil will be able to penetrate in to us.

This is just in the case of words, we could say more but i wouldn’t want to bore you with too much talks, the spirit of God will teach you more.

Patience can also be expressed in the aspect of knowing what to do per time. It is a thing to know what to do and it’s another thing to know when to do it. I have this problem and by God’s grace i’ve been working on it and trying to become a better person (we know that we are all works in progress). I realised that when i have something to do in mind or when something exites me so much, i tend to go into it so fast sometimes without prior and proper plan and knowledge about it. This is not a good thing because in order to achieve anything in life, God will usually take us through the process of learning and training to be sure that we are ready for the package.

I advice that you allow God to tutor you, be patient enough to go through the training and growing process because if you miss it and rush into what you want to do, you will still have to come back to receiving the training and it nay be more painful then.

Another area I would like to talk about is the aspect of our goals in life. My friends, good things take time in life and we (youths most importantly) need to take things easy and with patience. Alot if us want things to happen sharp sharp; quite alright we have plans but they can’t become a reality just as fast as we planned them. It is good to have deadline, in fact they are important to help us manage time and do things accordingly but it doesn’t mean that things will just usually happen just like that. The word of God says there are many devices in a man’s heart; nevertheless the counsel of the LORD, that shall stand [Proverbs 19:21 KJV]

Come to think of it, why is it that there are more grown up or old successful people than the young ones? I believe it’s because a lot of them had dreams just like us when they were at our ages but the dreams had to take time, they wouldn’t just happen like that. We would have to go through processes which will energise us develop us to be able to face the things ahead, including handling successes, criticism, friends, family and so on.

I know so well that it wouldn’t be easy but that’s why we have God. Ask Him to give you the grace to wait when need be and be patient during your training and growth process. And as simple as that, when He sees your willingness to learn and to be helped, he will help you!!

Life is a puzzle and if we are not patient enough we may not be able to solve it!

Isaiah 28:16 Therefore thus saith the Lord GOD, Behold, I lay in Zion for a foundation a stone, a tried stone, a precious corner stone, a sure foundation: he that believeth shall not make haste.

Thank you very much do your time friends 😍 Have a blessed week.